When Kids Don’t Say Apologies

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Learning to apologize is difficult but important. Many parents are realizing that their kids don’t want to say sorry when they’ve done something wrong. Parents are puzzled and frustrated when their kids don’t say apologies and even accept consequences instead. Breaking that simple apology down to understandable increments goes a long way in helping kids understand and apply this critical interpersonal skill.

First of all, explain to your kid what a negative impression people get of someone who don’t say sorry. Tell him it makes it seem like they don’t regret it and only care about themselves – not the kind of person most people want to be around, or have their children be with. Make sure he knows that people like others better if they apologize when they harm someone. Lots of children don’t know that.

Kids must know that saying the word “I’m sorry” is sometime not enough. It doesn’t help the kid understand clearly what he did. All kids have elements of selfishness and defensiveness to their personalities. Sorry words must be build with empathy.  Empathy is important and it must be learned thinking; consistent teaching of the words and actions of empathy and apology will help them take root. For example, if  your kid hurts a girl, tell him “Look at her! She is sad. She may cry. You have to do something.”

That’s right! An apology should be very specific: “I’m sorry, I broke your you pencil/ called you dirty/ ruined your room.” The apology can come in different ways, either face to face or over the phone. If your kids want to write a letter, it should be handwritten. Drawing is also be acceptable form of apology.

Explaining to your child what he did that requires an apology is more likely to be effective when conveyed in an informative, not punitive, tone of voice. Believe me, it’s better a lot when saying, “That is the problem. How do you think you can solve it?” —instead of having their child yell at them or slam a door in their face.

Teaching kids about apology is not easy task, but it will enhances your parenting skills. Remember, skills empower parents, and empowered parents can empower their children to meet life’s problems successfully.

 

Teaching Kids About Money

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Parents aren’t doing a good job of talking with their kids about money. They are more likely to talk to their children about having good morality and getting good grades than they are about having good savings habits. However, current situation of global economic in the past few years have prompted many parents to become more interested in teaching kids about money management.

Set a Good Example

One of the best things you can do is let your child see that you save money too. Put money in a piggy bank while your children are watching and tell them it’s your savings. This will show your children that saving is normal. In addition, since most young children want to be like their parents, seeing you do it will provide them with money lessons that further inspire them to save.

Make Smart Shopping

Responsible shopping is an important life skill. You can help your kids by talking about what products you choose to buy, where you choose to buy, and how you make decisions. For example, you should show your children to investigate the products on the internet or ask a sale assistant. The more information you have, the better decision you make. Plus, put a limit on how much you’re going to spend. This helps you teach your kids that there’s a limited supply of money and that you have to buy accordingly.

Reward for Successful Saving

Over time, kids may lose interest in saving their money or become depressed when they want something they can’t yet afford. To keep children motivated about saving their money, parents should reward their efforts. For example, if your kids don’t spend any money for a certain amount of time, provide a small reward such as stickers, toy, or extra hours to watch TV. You can also make the prizes better the longer your child saves.

Talk About Giving

Kids should learn that money doesn’t always need to be used for them. It can be used for others. For example, take them to charity events and get them involved in the process. Or, you can  set up a charity box at home which the whole family can contribute to. Then, you can let your kids see you drop money into charity boxes and encourage them to do the same –  then decide together how to use the money.