Things you should never say to kids

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The truth is we all say the wrong thing sometimes, leaving our kids feeling hurt, angry, or confused. Below are 9 things you should never say to kids for whatever reasons.

“Thinking about sex is bad at your age”

Parents always worry about facing tough question of where babies come from. Don’t zip this question by saying “I’ll tell you when you’re ready.” Instead, you should try “Curiosity about sex is normal and I will answer any questions that you have.” This is important for you to speak honestly and age-appropriately with your children.

“It’s your fault” 

Don’t play the blame game, especially with children.

“Why can’t you be more like ___?”

Everyone is different and individual so parent don’t ever compare one child to another regarding their ability, talent or skills. That will batters their confidence and make them more self conscious. Parent should identify their strengths and introduce them to activities that they are interested in.

“Your dad/mother is wrong” 

These words will undermines the trust and respect of a child to other parent and will most probably just cause a serious distance between you and your partner. Instead, you should try  “Let me talk to dad about that and we will decide what the best answer is and come back and tell you.”

“Shut up”

You may be in a bad mood, but that doesn’t mean you can say anything that come out of your mind to children. These horrible words should never be used towards children so it’s best to bite your lip.

“Wait until ___ gets home”

This is probably the most clichéd parenting saying around, but you should avoid it. You need to take action immediately yourself. By the time the other parent gets home, your child will actually have forgotten what she did wrong. Passing the responsibility to someone else also undermines your authority. “Why should I listen to mom if she’s not going to do anything anyway?”

“I’m proud of you”

Don’t let kids feel responsible for parental pride. Instead you should try “We trust in you. You did really well”

“Don’t Cry”

It’s natural to want to protect your kids from being sad, but saying “Don’t be a baby.” or “There’s no reason to be afraid.” doesn’t make them feel better. That will send a message  that their emotions are invalid. Rather than deny you kids’ feeling, you should name it by giving them the words to express themselves. That will let them cry less and describe their emotions instead.

“I’ll do it for you”

It’s easy to get angry and frustrated when your kids can’t finish a task or has trouble completing homework. You could decide to do it for them but there is a more collaborative approach by saying “Let’s do it together!”

How to get your kids doing chores

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Getting kids doing chores is one of the most common arguments families have. The reason kids don’t like doing chores is the same as adults: household tasks are boring. The best way to inspire kids is to work with their natural drive. Kids will feel like they are a valuable member of family. In addition, assigning children household chores is one of the best ways to build self-esteem and responsibility. Having chores also teaches valuable lessons about life and creates an understanding that there are jobs that must be done to run a household. Children who grow up perceiving chores will find the flow into adulthood much easier than those without responsibility will. Here are six ways to help your kids doing chores.

Take time for training. Don’t assume that your kid Don’t assume that since your child has seen you do the task that she can do it herself. Be very specific in your instruction and demonstrate step-by-step as your child watches. The next step is to let your child help you, followed by your child doing the chore as you supervise. At the point you feel that your child has mastered the job she can take over responsibility for it.

Make visual schedule: Children need a visual reminder to keep them remember of doing chores. A chart on which children can make daily check marks is one helpful technique.  At the end of the day, parents can check for any uncompleted tasks and have children finish them up before getting for bed.

Be specific: Be very specific in your instructions. As an example, “clean your corner” is general and can lead to number of ways. Instead, parent should be more specific by saying, “Put your books in the bookshelf, and toys in the toy box.”

Make it fun: Music can make even the boring tasks very enjoyable. When doing together on housework time, parents should turn the radio up loud and get everyone involved, making the session productive and fun. If  you can’t agree on a radio station, you should create a family playlist, featuring a few of everyone’s favourite tunes.

Give smart reward: Children like to be rewarded. If you reward your child with a little allowance for doing chores, you can, in the process, teach them about money management. This shows your child, that when they become an adult they will have to work to get paid by their employer. You can also show them how best to use their money for what they want and what they need.

Show appreciation: No matter how rewarding, it is good to hear “thank you.” It’s also useful to add specific comment like “you clean the dishes neatly.”

 

 

Getting kids interest in Programming

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Steve Jobs once said “Everybody in this country should learn to program a computer, because it teaches you how to think.”  It’s true. Programming is a highly useful skill for every child to learn. It teaches vital problem-solving, creativity, and communication skills. However, for young children , writing lines of code can be a boring task. Here are some advises for getting kids interest in programming.

First of all, parents should speak about computer programming to children. User computer term such as software and hardware in every conversations. This allow the children to know about the term and to learn at their own pace before being exposed to actual programming.

Parents need to find a computer programming application that is designed for children to make learning enjoyable for children. Give them plenty of time to explore the application’s menu and function buttons without hurry them along.

Parent should discuss the application and have children relate to each other about their experiences with using the application. Talking to each other helps children feel less boring by the newness of computer programming in their lives. Children also need parents to join up and write their own programs and to show them some team works.

Parent should encourage children to play more creative games like Minecraft. It’s a wildly popular game among elementary and middle schoolers. The game allows players to build constructions of textured cubes in a 3D world.

Sometimes, parents need to relate stories about how programming  has helped people in daily life or make someone’s job easier. Talk about the history of programming as it helped computers to guide spacecraft to the moon and explore the universe.

Even president Obama learns how to code javascript, so why don’t you start today?

Here’s another example of kids getting interest in programming.

Awesome LEGO fun facts for kids

LEGO is one of the most popular and best-selling toys of all time. It’s fun for both children and adults of all ages. Here are some awesome LEGO fun facts Kila want to share with you:

  • LEGO comes from Danish word leg godt: meaning “play well”. LEGO also means “I put together” in Latin.
  • LEGO is 83 years old: LEGO company was frounded in 1932 by a Danish carpenter named Ole Kirk Christiansen. However, LEGO blocks were manufactured from 1949.
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A LEGO set in 1949

  • A LEGO brick from 1958 would still compatible with a LEGO brick made today because LEGO bricks are part of a “universal system”.
  • You can combine six of the eight-studded LEGO bricks in 915,103,765 ways.
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An eight-stud LEGO brick

  • If you built a column of around 40 billions LEGO bricks, it would reach the moon.
  • On average, there are 62 LEGO bricks for every person on earth.
  • LEGO DUPLO designed for children age 1 to 5 years old and launched in 1969. DUPLO bricks are twice the length, height and width of original LEGO bricks but they can still connect together.
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LEGO DUPLO

  • In 2011, astronauts took 13 LEGO to the International Space Station to see how they react in microgravity.
  • No military LEGO sets. This rule was fixed by the LEGO creator Ole Kirk Christiansen who didn’t want to make war theme appealing to children.
  • In 2009, a British man built a life size house out of LEGO. It used 3.3 million bricks and it included a working toilet, a shower and a bed.
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A real LEGO house

 

Advantages of playing LEGO for kids

LEGO was first created by Ole Kirk Christiansen in the 1940s in Denmark. Beginning as a set of stackable, interlocking blocks, it has grown up and become a global company. It has been a part of almost every home and children can create a lot of funny things while playing LEGO.

But what value is gained by playing? What value is there to playing at all? Unlike other toys whose benefits end with providing kids with a fun experience, there are also a lot of lessons that can be learned from playing LEGO.
Educational benefits include:

  • Lego provides tools that develop lateral thinking in a fun environment
  • It teaches kids to think in three dimensions
  • It improves literacy as kids work with instructions
  • It develops problem-solving, organization, and planning by construction
  • It improves creativity
  • It enhances communication and critical thinking
  • It boosts kids’ motor development.
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Source: onlinecollege.org

Make reading fun for kids

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Knowledge can be gained by reading. If you want your children to be smart, they have to acquire a love for reading.  The love of reading have so many benefits:

  • Build vocabulary
  • Boost imagination and creativity
  • Enhance kids’ social skills
  • Improve concentration

Here are 10 tips to make reading fun for kids:

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Dog is a Best Friend for Kid

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Kila own a male dog named Bo. He is my best friend and I share everything with him. He’s always happy to see me when I get home. My mom once said that it’s important to grow up with a dog. Do you know that the relationship between you and your pets is special and comforting? It will bring many benefits for your development.

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Help children cope with disaster

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No one knows when the next earthquake, flood or tsunami will strike. But we do know children are severely affected by natural disasters. They also suffer greatly during conflict, drought and disease outbreaks. That’s why we have to prepare ourselves to help children cope with disaster situation.

First off, in order to help children cope with a disaster situation, it’s necessary for the adults involved to keep cool and calm at all times. While this may be difficult to accomplish, it is necessary because children follow the lead of the adults that are caring for them. If they see the adults in their community screaming, yelling, crying and otherwise losing their composure, the children will follow suit and do the same.

Keep talking with your children. Your words can provide reassurance. When danger has passed, concentrate on your child’s emotional needs by asking the child what’s uppermost in his or her mind. Having children participate in the family’s recovery activities will help them feel that their life will soon return to “normal.” Your response during this time may have a lasting impact.

Be alert to any significant changes in a child’s sleeping patterns, eating habits and concentration levels. Take note of any dramatic emotional swings or frequent physical complaints. These emotional symptoms will likely lessen within a short time, however, if they continue you should seek professional help and counseling for your child.

Here’s a some other tips:

  • Watch the news frequently with your kids. That gives a chance to see your kids’ reaction and make sure they understand well.
  • Make a family emergency plan. Explain it to your kids, and show them what to do.
  • Teach your children about science to predict and deal with disasters. Tell them the popular warning signs of disasters.
  • During an emergency case, minutes can seem like hours. It’s best to wait inside shelter before the threat of disaster has passed. Wait a little longer than to put children in harm’s way.

How children respond to disaster

Children depend on daily routines. They wake up, eat breakfast, go to school, play with friends. When an unexpected catastrophe interrupts this routine – i.e. earthquake, hurricane, tornado, fire, flood, or violent acts – how children respond to disaster?

First of all, the way children see and understand their parents’ responses are very important. If parents react with alarm, children may become more scared. They see the fear as proof that the danger is real. If parents seem overcome with a sense of loss, children may feel their losses more strongly.

Children’s fears may also arise from their imagination. Pretending there is no the danger will not end a child’s concerns. Parents must be sure to give a realistic picture that is honest. They must talk about their worries, and their abilities to cope with the disaster to their children.

A child’s reaction also depends on how much destruction and/or death he or she sees during and after the disaster. If a friend or family member has been killed or seriously injured, or if the child’s school or home has been severely damaged, there is a greater chance that the child will experience difficulties.

A child’s age affects how the child will respond to the disaster. For example, six-year-olds may show their worries by refusing to attend school, whereas teens may minimize their concerns, but argue more with parents and show a decline in school performance.

 

Kids and Bedtime Stories

Kids, do you like listening a story before you sleep?  Last night, mom read “Seven raven” for Kila. We really enjoyed and were excited to talk about the story. Mom also told me that bedtime stories can be a good chance to build up the personality and share love between family members. Why? Sometime, I just can’t open my eyes, and go to sleep, but mom showed me some reasons of reading bedtime stories.

First of all, bedtime stories relax your mind from your day work like homework, troubles with friends, scolding from elder etc.

Reading stories without pictures will also encourage your imagination, the picture has to be formed in your head from words you hear.

Sometime, the story with good moral at the end helps you to be honest.

In addition, you may take great people and achievers as inspiration after reading their true stories. This also improves your knowledge about personalities.

Especially, it boosts your vocabulary and brings you whole new things about the world around you.

If you were an active kid, bedtime stories help you calm down and you would go to bed easily with  nice dreams.

And finally, the most important reason of all for reading bedtime stories is: this is time which you have with your mom or dad, a chance for you to feel you are indeed loved, cherished and priority.

So, it’s important to reading a bedtime story with your parent, isn’t it? Find out more benefits for bedtime stories and let Kila know!