How to Defend Yourself from Bullies?

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Bullies can make you feel hurt, scared, and embarrassed by using violent actions and bad words.

Being bullied  can make you not want to go to school or play outside. It’s hard to focus on studying when you’re worried about how to deal with the bullies at the canteen.

Are you being bullied? There are things you can do to defend yourself from bullies.

What to do to keep you out of trouble

  • When you walk on campus, walk with confidence. Stand up straight, look directly at people, and make eye contact. If you have friends, of course you do, walk with them.
  • Avoid taking shortcuts. Make sure the paths you take are clear and have decent lightning.
  • Maintain safe distance with strangers.
  • Remember emergency phones on campus.
  • Most schools have bullying policies and anti-bullying programs. Find out about the laws in your community.
  • Think about what you post online. Do not share private information on the Internet.
  • If you learn martial arts and let’s people know that, bullies might not touch you.
  • Respect everyone

What to do if you’re bullied

Use non-violent method

  • Stay calm. It’s natural to get mad by bullies, but that’s what they want. Instead, try counting to 10 or take a deep breath with a “poker face”.
  • Look at your bullies and tell them to stop. Don’t say anything including threats, insults, racism, or even compliments to bullies. Don’t show them that you care much about the things they say.
  • Quickly look for an escape route and walk away.
  • If the bullies get too far, find an adult to stop the bullying on the spot or report them to school administrator or police.

If thing goes bad

  • Let’s your opponents start the fight ( if they started the fight you will get less trouble with school, and the law)
  • If they throw things at you, try to avoid the objects, especially sharp objects. Don’t block those objects with your body parts, you will get injured.
  • If you are small, just run. If you are big enough, use your size at advantage: stand up tall, ball up your fists, and puff out  your chest. You may scare bullies.
  • If  fighting is not avoidable,  keep your balance and do not let you fall. Try to move around, dodge, and fight back. Resist as much as you can to get out of that position.

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Eating Tons of Candy

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One reason that parents do not want children to eat candy is because they do not want their children to be able to make their own decisions. Limiting children is not bad idea, but parents have to be clever. The best way to educate a kid, is to simply allow him to do what he believe is right and if that includes eating tons of candy.

This allows him to set his own limit and when he over-do it, he will realize why he aren’t feeling well from eating too much candy. This will teach the child how to make decisions, and that’s an important skill. The kid may not be able to make every decision, but he will learn from his mistake and may become a person who doesn’t need someone else to make choices for him.

If parents can make it seem like the children has chosen to set a limit for themselves, they will follow it without questioning. Instead of yelling at children, work with them and talk about their ideas.

If the idea is bad, allow them to see the error in their ways. If the idea is harmful to the child, explain to them why and how it will affect them, do not simply argue with them or use the ever so popular “because I told you so”. This can lead to rebellion in the child.

Sugar is not toxic. A few pieces of candy a day isn’t going to ruin their weight, diet, or health. If parents scare or pressure their kids into making certain food choices, they’re ruining their fun. Let children choose one or two pieces to enjoy as a snack each day, and don’t make a big deal about it.


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Is Minecraft Okay for Kids?

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Minecraft is one of the most popular games in the world with more than 100 millions registered users. The point of Minecraft seems simple: you can build anything you imagine in an open 3 D  environment. There are  two modes. In Survival mode, players begin at random locations on huge maps. They have to collect resources, cook food, build shelters, and keep them alive. In Creative mode, the game provide infinitive resources so players are free to build what ever they want, from ancient structures to fantasy worlds.

However, is Minecraft okay for kids? Should parents allow their kids to play this game? In my opinion, playing Minecraft can be an incredibly positive and worthwhile experiences for kids, but there are definitely a lot of parents questioning the values of this game.

In this article we’re going to take a look at some of the reasons why kids should be allowed to play Minecraft.

First of all, Minecraft is a very safe game for kids. There’s no sex, drugs, bad language, guns or blood. The violence is minimal and not graphic, mostly used for survival rather than combat, and can be totally avoided if you want. Even the most potentially unsafe aspect of the game – playing on a multiplayer server – can be made as safe as you need it to be.

Kids can learn valuable life skills while playing Minecraft. This game is an open sandbox that doesn’t come with instructions, so the game play is confusing — but that’s what makes it compelling and perfect to teach problem solving skill. When kids start the game, they will see all kind of monster ( not so much creepy ) come at them. They have to react quickly to survive the first night. Kids will learn how to cut down trees and build some type of shelters, as well as watch the hunger bar. They are forced to come up with a strategy in minutes that includes hunting for food, building shelter, making tools from available resources.

Teamwork is also an important skill from multiplayer Minecraft.  When kids playing together, they are learning to work for common purposes. Kids learns how each of these friends communicates best, and they also learns how to settle disputes, compromise, and respect the wishes of others when it comes to how things function in their game world.

Minecraft is not expensive. Minecraft costs around $30 for the computer version and less for the pocket edition or XBox 360 – after that initial outlay, all the subsequent updates are free. This is a pretty good investment because kids will love it and play it for years. There is also a huge source of free mods and texture packs to keep things interesting, and free image editors and video software that kids can use if they want to get into making their own stuff to share.

If your kid plays Minecraft, I encourage you to ask questions, listen to what he or she does and how they’ve figured out how to do it. You will be amazed at the creativity, imagination, problem solving, and overall life skills being grown and flexed through what seems to be a simple game.

When Kids Don’t Say Apologies

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Learning to apologize is difficult but important. Many parents are realizing that their kids don’t want to say sorry when they’ve done something wrong. Parents are puzzled and frustrated when their kids don’t say apologies and even accept consequences instead. Breaking that simple apology down to understandable increments goes a long way in helping kids understand and apply this critical interpersonal skill.

First of all, explain to your kid what a negative impression people get of someone who don’t say sorry. Tell him it makes it seem like they don’t regret it and only care about themselves – not the kind of person most people want to be around, or have their children be with. Make sure he knows that people like others better if they apologize when they harm someone. Lots of children don’t know that.

Kids must know that saying the word “I’m sorry” is sometime not enough. It doesn’t help the kid understand clearly what he did. All kids have elements of selfishness and defensiveness to their personalities. Sorry words must be build with empathy.  Empathy is important and it must be learned thinking; consistent teaching of the words and actions of empathy and apology will help them take root. For example, if  your kid hurts a girl, tell him “Look at her! She is sad. She may cry. You have to do something.”

That’s right! An apology should be very specific: “I’m sorry, I broke your you pencil/ called you dirty/ ruined your room.” The apology can come in different ways, either face to face or over the phone. If your kids want to write a letter, it should be handwritten. Drawing is also be acceptable form of apology.

Explaining to your child what he did that requires an apology is more likely to be effective when conveyed in an informative, not punitive, tone of voice. Believe me, it’s better a lot when saying, “That is the problem. How do you think you can solve it?” —instead of having their child yell at them or slam a door in their face.

Teaching kids about apology is not easy task, but it will enhances your parenting skills. Remember, skills empower parents, and empowered parents can empower their children to meet life’s problems successfully.

 

Things your kids need to hear

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Here is a list of encourage phrases your kids need to hear. Some of these examples fit in many kinds of scenarios. It’s not difficult for parents to say these things daily in conversation. You never know the words of encouragement from you can make a huge impact to you kids life.

“I believe in you/I trust you”

Your kids will grow up feeling secure if they know that we trust and believe in them. Tell them that you trust them and respect their decision.

“I love you”

Unconditionally, and nothing will ever change that.

Make sure it’s accompanied with a hug and a kiss.

“Let’s skip everything and just have fun today.”

If  you pick your kids soon from school, you can go around with them, take them to park, to restaurant or any fun place. You will send a message that you are willing to slow down the everyday errands and chore of life to spend time with your kids.

“Is there anything you want to talk about?”

You kids will love this question because it leads to conversations about experiences, emotions, fears and worries that you would never have known about or been able to share. There should be very few times when kids answer no. They are fun to crave opportunities to connect with you as their parents.

“I’m sorry”

Two simple words, “I’m sorry”, from parents to kids, have a monumental impact on them. Many parents don’t realize the importance of apologizing to their child. They also don’t believe they need to apologize. The fact is, when a parent apologizes to a child, it further cements the parent-child relationship and provides the child with a sense of safety and well-being.

“You are so cool”

This phrases works for every kids. It boosts confidence, make you kids open up to you, and does so much more.

“I know you can.”

Kids easy to lose confidence when they are trying to do something a few times but fail. As parents, you need to encourage them to keep trying, and let them know that you believe in them. Make them feel stronger and nothing is impossible.

“I canceled your appointment with the dentist.”

This is a super powerful charm.

 

You can check out our related post “Things you should NEVER say to kids

Top books by Jules Verne

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Jules Verne was a 19th century French author whose revolutionary science-fiction novels. His works of imagination, and the innovations and inventions contained within, have appeared in countless forms, from motion pictures to the stage, to television. His writings on scientific have sparked the imaginations of writers, scientists and inventors for over a century. Here’s a list of top books by Jules Verne including Journey to the Center of the Earth, Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea, and Around the World in Eighty Days which have entranced readers for more than a century.

Journey to the Center of the Earth

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In the novel, A Journey to the Center of the Earth, Verne tells the fictitious story of three men and their adventures into the depths of the earth. Professor Otto Lidenbrock discovers a note in an old journal that show a path that lead to the center of the Earth. He drags his nephew (the narration of the story) Axel Lidenbrock, and a guider, Hans Bjelke, descend the chimney of an extinct volcano near Reykjavik, Iceland. Together, they face great adventure and peril as they journey to the center of the Earth. Professor Lidenbrock taking scientific notes, Hans keeping the team out of harm, and Axel wondering all the while if they will ever return to their home.

The mutual contrast between the three characters keeps the reader engaged. Although there are no lead female characters, the old-fashioned romance is kept alive through Axel’s thought for his lover.

Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea

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Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea begins with a mystery. For over a year, vessels have reported running into a floating island, or being rammed by a giant whale. Pierre Aronnax, assistant professor at the Museum of Natural History in Paris, he believes that a huge narwhal is the cause of the mystery. The Abraham Lincoln, a speedy frigate of United State, is assigned to hunt and kill the dangerous beast. Because of his theory, Aronnax is invited to join the expedition along with his servant, Conseil, and a famous Canadian harpooner, Ned Land. They finds out that the monster is actually the Nautilus, a submarine lead by Captain Nemo and his crew. Aronnax and his friends is brought into the mystery ship. Captain Nemo introduces them to the wonders of the underwater world. He shows them the lost continent of Atlantis and the wrecks he has plundered of gold. Aronnax is fascinated by these underwater discoveries, but Ned Land becomes more impatient for his freedom.

The book was highly acclaimed when released and still is now. The description of Nemo’s ship, the Nautilus, was considered ahead of its time, as it accurately describes features on submarines, which at the time were very primitive vessels. Thus, the book has been able to age well because of its scientific theories.

Around the World in Eighty Days

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Around the World in Eighty Days is a fantastic journey by Phileas Fogg, an Englishman and his French manservant, Passepartout, in 1873. At one such visit to the club to play cards, Fogg gets into a conversation with his fellow card players as to whether it is possible to go around the world in eighty days. He believes this is a challenge to complete the adventure. However, detective Fix follows Fogg all over. He believes that Fogg is the bank robber who has robbed a great sum from the bank of England. He puts obstacles in Fogg’s path just so that he can arrest him. The plot goes through Brindisi, Suez, Bombay, Calcutta, Hong Kong, Yokohama, San Francisco, New York and finally Liverpool. The journey challenges both Phileas Fogg and Passepartout in many ways, but both men come out as winners in the end. Fogg and Passepartout journey around the world to win a simple wager, but they leave an incredible story about loyalty and friendship in their wake.

 

4 Ways to Encourage Kid to Donate to Charity

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We all like to give. In fact a growing body of research tells us that we are hard-wired for giving. Giving to charity not only strengthens our communities and aids the people we are helping, but it also gives us feelings of empowerment, joy and inspiration. We want our kids to develop generosity and to be able to experience the happiness that comes from giving. Here are some ideas to encourage kid to donate to charity.

Let Them Choose the Cause

The best way to get kids to donate some of their money to charity is for them to feel connected to a mission for their cause of choice. Children may feel good when they know that their money is going to benefit people in their own communities. They can donate to a local food bank or animal shelter. Many families ask government organization to let them know about families in need, and then donate food, money, toys and clothes anonymously. By making it interesting and fun for them to choose a charity, parents can see a kid’s interests and passions emerge. And don’t forget about showing them the results of their good deeds.

Make It Habit

Children can learn to be generous at an early age. Starting at age 6 or 7, give your child an allowance. Have him set aside some money for charity as well as spending and savings. Help him decide where he would like to spend his charitable contribution. He can donate it to his church or another charity of his choice. Focus on how his money will be spent by the charity and how it will bless the lives of others.

Turn kid’s birthdays into charity events

Instead of a spending on a big birthday celebration, why not focus on helping other people instead by making their next party a charity event. Ask guests to donate old books, toys and clothes that can be donated to your local children’s foundation. Explain to young celebrant that another way to celebrate a birthday is to share blessings with those who have less. Let him be involved in making certain decisions like choosing the appropriate organization.

Help with Natural Disasters

We often see news reports of earthquakes, tsunamis and hurricanes that devastate communities. Kids have a natural sympathy for the people who have been affected by these disasters. They might also feel frightened and worried that the same thing could happen to them. Giving money through the Red Cross after a disaster can make a kid feel empowered. For example, in 2010, a deadly tsunami attacked Haiti. Many donate resources were from children. They watched the news and they donate money to help the victims of Haiti.

 

Teaching Kids About Money

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Parents aren’t doing a good job of talking with their kids about money. They are more likely to talk to their children about having good morality and getting good grades than they are about having good savings habits. However, current situation of global economic in the past few years have prompted many parents to become more interested in teaching kids about money management.

Set a Good Example

One of the best things you can do is let your child see that you save money too. Put money in a piggy bank while your children are watching and tell them it’s your savings. This will show your children that saving is normal. In addition, since most young children want to be like their parents, seeing you do it will provide them with money lessons that further inspire them to save.

Make Smart Shopping

Responsible shopping is an important life skill. You can help your kids by talking about what products you choose to buy, where you choose to buy, and how you make decisions. For example, you should show your children to investigate the products on the internet or ask a sale assistant. The more information you have, the better decision you make. Plus, put a limit on how much you’re going to spend. This helps you teach your kids that there’s a limited supply of money and that you have to buy accordingly.

Reward for Successful Saving

Over time, kids may lose interest in saving their money or become depressed when they want something they can’t yet afford. To keep children motivated about saving their money, parents should reward their efforts. For example, if your kids don’t spend any money for a certain amount of time, provide a small reward such as stickers, toy, or extra hours to watch TV. You can also make the prizes better the longer your child saves.

Talk About Giving

Kids should learn that money doesn’t always need to be used for them. It can be used for others. For example, take them to charity events and get them involved in the process. Or, you can  set up a charity box at home which the whole family can contribute to. Then, you can let your kids see you drop money into charity boxes and encourage them to do the same –  then decide together how to use the money.

 

Simple ways to make your kids smarter

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We all want our kids to reach their full intellectual to enjoy learning and reading. We all want them to be smart. There are many advantages to being a smart kid. A smart kid can learn things faster and does well in school. A smart kid can obviously solve problems easier and quicker and get a higher chance to be successful in life. A smart kids have more abilities to help other people and make you feel proud as parent. Here are tips from experts on how to make your kids smarter.

Read books to your kid

Start reading to your infant even if he does not understand the words. Fables is a good example because its characters are mostly animals and its storylines are very simple. This will give him a head start in developing language skills. Kids who are read to when young are more likely to develop a lifelong interest in reading, do well in school, and succeed in adult life. Reading books is one of the most important activity that make kids smart.

Give you kid smart games

Smart games, including mobile games, teach your kid about color, letter, music and many others. They will develop his hand-eye coordination and logical thinking while playing. Learning and having fun at the same time is the best way for your kids to learn.

Keep breastfeeding as long as possible

A child’s brain need a proper balance of basic fuel such as glucose and vitamin. Without them, brain might have difficulty understanding new information, and remembering things as well. Mother’s milk will provide all that nutritions. Keep breastfeeding as long as you can. It’s a fact that schoolkids who were breastfed as infants have higher IQs.

Make eye contact

Each time your newborn stares at you, he’s building his memory. Make sure you take advantage of those brief moments, and look right into his eyes. Infants recognize faces early on — and yours is the most important.

Make music a part of your child’s life

Scientist say that music can boost memory, attention, and motivation of learning. Learn or make up as many tunes as you can, and sing to your kid while changing diaper or eating. Lullabies or other soft music can also calm your kid down and help him fall asleep.

Limit television time

Television is not bad but too much of anything can still doing harm. For toddlers and infants, it has been found that TV has no educational benefits for kids under 2.

First roller coaster in America opens

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On this day in 1884, the first roller coaster in America opens at Coney Island, in Brooklyn, New York. A roller coaster is an amusement park attraction that consists of a light railroad track with many tight turns and steep slopes, on which people ride in small fast open cars. This new entertainment was an instant success and by the turn of the century there were hundreds of roller coasters around the country.

Here are some tips for parents while taking children to roller coaster.

Stay positive 

The point of visiting roller coaster is not to bag the largest number of rides – it is to have a good time. And if your kids say no to it, don’t try to push them into it. You really want the entire visit to become a positive experience because it’s the best way to ensure that your kids keep wanting to come to parks. and you get your money’s worth.

Start with a smaller coaster

If your kids are inexperienced at riding roller coasters, the best way is to ride a smaller version of a coaster. Most of the  parks have a different types of roller coasters. Smaller coasters will usually have less-intense drops, no loops, and still fun.

Keep an empty stomach

Unlike other kinds of entertainment, roller coasters can make some people puke. The g-forces and the feeling of weightlessness can cause stomach trouble.  Don’t let your kids eat right before going on a coaster and make sure you go to bathroom before getting in line.

Keep your item in pocket.

Before the riding, it’s important to check yourself and your kids for anything you might lose while going very fast in an open-top roller coaster such as hats, glasses, and necklaces. It can be very difficult to retrieve these items if you lose them somewhere along the way. Remember to stow them in your pocket or give them to someone else on the ground.

Yell

People usually start shouting with fun when the carts go over big hill. Screaming in a ground can trigger the release of oxytocin which can calm you down and produce feelings of euphoria in some conditions. Make sure to let  you and your kids join them.